The first time I met my oncologist, I was ready to hear positive things like “You can beat it” “We will help you along the way to you becoming cured”…you know, good vibes for the start of my journey after the craniotomy. Not the case.
Q: WHEN AND HOW DID CANCER FIRST BECOME A PART OF YOUR LIFE?
A: In January 2015 my girlfriend Caroline (now wife) was diagnosed with cervical cancer.
Q: WHAT TREATMENT DID YOUR LOVED ONE HAVE?
A: Caroline went through a large operation to remove a mass in February 2015 , then had a recurrence a few months later. She then went through two cycles of chemotherapy which were unsuccessful, then the maximum amount of radiotherapy which also wasn’t majorly effective. She then had a second operation to remove the mass in October 2015 which sadly was also unsuccessful. She passed away in December 2015.
Q: WHAT WOULD YOUR ADVICE BE TO SOMEONE WITH A LOVED ONE THAT HAS BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH CANCER?
A: The best advice I could give to someone with a loved one that has been diagnosed with cancer would be…just be there. Be there whenever possible. The hospital meetings, the treatment, the tears and the pain. As in between those difficult moments there is life. There are memories, laughter, joy and these are the most important moments. My proudest achievement in my life has been the fact that I was with Caroline from the very beginning, to her very last breath, and in those 11 months we shared more than a lifetime of love.